Now I feel sadness for losing out because of fear, and a cult mindset. I let things slide often not thinking it is worth a battle. Of course, your parents will care most. You can't reason with fanatics, and you got one. Good thing is you can have multiple wives in heaven if you become exalted. What are the strategies for not taking the absence personally I mentioned above that I'm cognizant of my SO's constraints, but it's definitely hard I have been married to an Interventional Radiologist 30 yrs. I have rediscovered what I love about the church but choose not to attend or participate. In our church, women are treated with more respect, and are considered to have a literal free ticket to heaven, simply bu because their female. Pin It on Pinterest. Everyone seems to be supporting the idea that he is just too busy, but the truth is we over the internet can't judge his intent.
With localized medical news and in-language editions. The point is that there are way too many people talking in this thread as if they have some sort of psychic knowledge a stone in a hat, perhaps. Though our husband's are different we are very similar. At least I know that there are people who truly understand the medical life. If your date has been an active member of the Church who is following these moral guidelines, then she will not be willing to involve herself in a sexual relationship with you. I knew a guy who joined the Mormon church because he thought it would help him date a certain Mormon girl, a girl who refused to date non-Mormons. If you like her, and I'm assuming you do, I would suggest you continue the relationship and see how things pan out. That and this recent article https: They are trying to explain how it's ok that the founder used a magic rock to hunt for buried treasure to earn money, and then used that same "seer stone" to translate the Book of Mormon. I have rediscovered what I love about the church but choose not to attend or participate.
If you are all sealed together, you will be together forever in the Celestial Kingdom. She probably doesn't even realize how crazy that is. I wouldn't wish this shit on my enemy. There's this fantasy perpetuated in the religion that if you're good and pure enough, that any man you meet would eventually see the truth and join the church for you. You need to do something interesting and keep her faith up. I know that sounds cold but if you train under stress for that many years and become a member of a masochistic not the sexual context fraternity like that of surgical residents, then you more easily shut out anything that might break down those walls. Once you both die, you will not be married in the afterlife and she will get assigned to be the polygamous wife of someone else. But I don't want to put any more demands on his time, which is why I thought maybe asking for quick phone call on his drive home might help. Listen, you are in a bad situation and it just has not come to a head yet. He will not be permitted to bless the child in front of the ward, for instance, so you will have to choose to forego that ritual or find someone else to stand in for the father, which he may not be comfortable with.
Unless you convert she won't marry you, plain and simple. And for mormons, the goal is always a temple marriage and a marriage for the eternities. I just happened upon your blog I'm a doctor's wife as well - rural family medicine and I just wanted to agree with you that "have no expectations" is awesome advice. It sucks but ultimately what Mormonism does to people is it makes them value adherence to church more than their relationships with people. Take the missionary lessons, read the Book of Mormon and the Bible. It's alot to understand if not raised and taught in it specifically. And the fact that he didn't respond for two days was confirmation for myself that I did the right thing. I've been in a similar situation before. Don't wait for it to eventually fall apart or hope that she will change. Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost.